Flirting Tips: What to Concentrate On.

Many people make the mistake of saying too much while they are flirting. The truth must be told, you really don’t have to say much. Flirting starts long before either person utters a word. The first thing people tend to notice is how someone looks. After that, it is body language and then the statement that will be said. In fact, by the time you say anything, about 80 percent of the attention of the other party is used up. However, things can still go wrong.

When flirting, concentrate on how you look. This is what will initially get you noticed. You are to dress decently for the occasion. If you are at a formal dinner, dress formally. If you are at a friend’s party, go casual but smart. You would like to become known but do not shock others. The attention you are attracting might be the wrong kind if you show too much, off.

Next, you need to concentrate on body language. Use language that lets them know you are interested. Make eye contact and smile. Do not worry about looking obvious. In fact looking obvious is what you want. Pretending not to notice someone, you are interested in never works; they usually leave and the opportunity is lost.

Finally, you do need to say the right things. As stated above only about 20 percent of flirting involves conversation. However, you do not want this 20 percent to mess up the previous 80. It can happen and quite often does. Stay away from the old tired pick up lines. Even if they are meant jokingly, leave them. They are as transparent as plastic wrap and never work. Avoid the desire to be cool and assertive at first. Walking over with a drink before even saying hello is a great way to put someone off you way.

Always, give compliments but do not overdo it. Be sincere. Phony compliments are worse than not an iota at all.