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Showing posts with label Flirting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Flirting. Show all posts

08 September 2010

Flirting Tips: Flirting At Bars and Night Clubs.

Set out, on the weekend with friends for some of the best, flirting opportunities ‎available. If you are in a bar or nightclub, there are usually hundreds of potential flirting ‎opportunities. Flirting at a bar or nightclub can be lots of fun but it can lead to other things, with ‎some being good, while some not so well. You need to take some precautions while flirting at Bars and nightclubs.‎

Something that we all need to remember when we flirt with someone in such setting is the effect ‎of alcohol. After two or three drinks, suddenly everyone looks more attractive and appears more ‎interesting. Your inhibitions will also be relaxed so things you did not consider doing before you ‎arrived might suddenly seems all the more likely. No one is saying don’t drink at all, just keep in ‎mind what alcohol can do.‎

If you spot someone that you like and they seem to like you, keep in mind you do not know ‎anything about this person. Speak to them, get to know what you can do but be ‎cautious on how far you want to take things. This person could be anyone, not necessarily who ‎they say they are. If you are flirting and things seem to be going a bit too well then stop ‎immediately. Be clear about how far you are willing to take things. A little embarrassment now can save a lot of heartache later.‎

Make sure you have a way home as well. There is nothing wrong with flirting at bars and ‎nightclubs, provided that, some safety measures are set up. Keep in mind what alcohol can do and its ‎effects. This person may not look and seem so great once the effect of the drinks wears off. Keep ‎in mind this person is a complete stranger and be clear how far you are willing to take things.

In addition, have someone with you. There is safety in numbers. You all do not have to be together at ‎all moments of the night but check on each other from time to time. It is much safer and those ‎with less than good intentions are less likely to try it on when they know you are part of a group.‎

Finally, have people near you. Have a safe way home planned and check on each other. By ‎following these tips you can flirt away and do it safely.‎

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06 September 2010

Flirting Tips: Flirting At Work.

When you are out on a Friday or Saturday night, many think this presents the best opportunities ‎for flirting and meeting people. It is a good place to start but why limit yourself to the bar and ‎night club scene. One of the best places available to meet people is the workplace.‎

Relationships created by meeting at work tend to materialize and last longer than those on the ‎social scene. Work is a great place to meet people. These are people that you see on a daily basis ‎and know. It presents great flirting opportunities, but you need to follow a few guidelines. If you ‎like a work college, you should check to make sure there are no ruled against employees dating. ‎Some companies have put these in place resulting in people losing their positions. If they do ‎have such a policy then you may want to think again. Is this person really worth being ‎unemployed.‎?

If your company has no such policy, you still however need to remain professional. You should ‎still try to be discreet. Make sure your behaviour does not make other co-workers uncomfortable.‎

Also, when it comes to the actually flirting, make sure you do it on your own time. Use your ‎breaks or lunches, using company time can result in disciplinary actions.‎

Finally, try to avoid flirting with those senior to you. This can create a tense atmosphere in the ‎workplace. Others may think you are getting preferred treatment if you end up dating the boss. If ‎you and someone senior end up dating then you, need to be as professional as possible. Be ‎discreet and do what you can to avoid confrontation with others. Those in senior positions ‎should think twice before flirting with someone below them.

Things start off well but many sexual ‎harassment cases have been, reported, as a result of a failed work relationship.‎ Work provides for some excellent flirting opportunities, but you need to be careful. If your ‎actions are misinterpreted then they could result in some serious consequences.‎

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04 September 2010

Flirting Tips: Safety in Numbers.

When was the last time you went out with your girlfriends? You must likely have had a great time ‎chatting away and the time probably passed quickly. If you go out to meet members of the ‎opposite sex in this way, you may start to notice that not many will approach your pack. In fact, do not ‎be surprised if no single man approaches you all night. This seems bizarre but quite often, it ‎happens. The simple reason is, some men are afraid.‎

Men are fearful of this situation for several reasons and many times choose to avoid it. Believe it ‎or not large groups of women intimidate men. One of the first reasons is down to simple ‎convenience. If a man is interested in just one person, he does not want to wade through four or five ‎others to get to the one he wants. He wants to go straight for his target and try his luck.‎

Men also avoid this situation because of their egos. Flirting with someone is difficult enough. ‎Things could go well or you could crash and burn. When it comes to crashing and burning, a man ‎would rather do it without an audience.‎

Women do frequently go out together, sometimes for safety and others just for companionship. ‎Men dread crowds of women for fear of what they might do. If you are with friends try separating frequently. This will give the poor man an opportunity to ‎approach and try his luck.

If a man decides to flirt with ‎their friends and does it badly, he may have to not only deal with the one he insulted but all of ‎her friends as well. This could prove to be a highly stressful and volatile situation.‎

You may also want to refrain from talking to your friends for a bit because some men find it rude to interrupt. If you take a breather then they may approach when the ‎opportunity presents itself.‎

Flirting can be both fun and a challenge. Some find it hard to believe that men find it just as ‎hard, if not harder than women do. If you are with your friends, perhaps separate or stop your ‎conversation. You may notice someone who has noticed you.‎

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02 September 2010

Flirting Tips: When It Goes Bad.

There are times in all of our lives when we have attracted the wrong person. You either are not ‎interested in them at all or have finally been put-off by their flirting techniques. When ‎this happens, many of us do not know what to do. Some end up enduring a whole evening of ‎bad jokes and stale pick up lines until the night finally comes to a close.‎

When confronted with this situation, you can do a few things. The first thing you ‎need to consider is, would you be interested in this person if the flirting was not so bad? If so, be polite and take over. Chances are this person might just be nervous and has gotten in over ‎their head.‎

Once the person has calmed down, and they are fine, if you would not be interested at all, then you still ‎should try to be polite. Remember, that this is a person with feelings. Just say, no thank you ‎or some other excuse and they should leave.‎

If they persist then you have the right to be a bit more aggressive. Be direct and tell them ‎you are not interested. They should get the hint at this point. If they continue to persist then ‎you need to take them down a peg or two. You could ask if they have the professional’s ‎guide to flirting. If they say no, tell them to get a copy and practice on someone else.‎

Finally, flirting is a great way to meet and get to know people. However, despite our best efforts, ‎sometimes it can go wrong. Be direct and assertive and that unwanted attention should go ‎away.‎

31 August 2010

Flirting Tips: Finding Opportunities.

Today many people moan about how hard it is to meet people. They say either there is no one ‎out there for them or they have taken all of the good ones. Well nothing is farther from the truth.‎

There are plenty of great men and women out there to be met, you just have to get out and ‎find them.‎
One of the main problems is that people have become very sedentary. Their lives revolve ‎around work. Once that is finished, they come home and sit down in front of the television or ‎computer. IT is very unlikely that the perfect someone is going to burst through your door and ‎start flirting with you. You need to make some effort.‎

Another problem is that many who do not frequent bars and nightclubs think these are their ‎only opportunities. While it is true that these are great gathering places, there are many other ‎great places to flirt.‎

You may be surprised but you can quite often kill two birds with one stone when you look for ‎flirting opportunities. For example, if you have ever considered, getting into shape perhaps ‎joining a local gym would help. Gyms will assist you shed the pounds but are also great places ‎to meet people. If you are interested in working out then, you will meet people with similar ‎interests to yours.‎

As well as gaining ‎credits toward a degree or other qualification, you can also meet people. Try asking ‎classmates over for study dates or meeting up somewhere afterward. These again provide ‎excellent flirting and meeting opportunities.‎

Finally, work is an ideal place to practice flirting. Make sure your company has nothing to ‎prohibit employee dating first. However, many people meet their future life partners at work. ‎These are people you know and see every day. Take advantage of the opportunity.‎

To flirt and meet people, you need to get out there in the world. The chances are very slim ‎that the special someone is going to come crashing through your roof. Look at your local ‎opportunities and get chatting. It is easier than you think.‎

29 August 2010

Flirting Tips: Overcoming Fears.

Flirting should be fun, not torture. However, everyday, millions of us let opportunities go by due ‎to fear of flirting. Fear of flirting is quite common even among the most confident of people.‎

There are those that can run multinational corporations, get up in front of thousands of people ‎and talk, but when it comes to flirting with a possible love interest, that confidence goes ‎completely out the window.‎

The fear of flirting comes from the fear of crashing and burning. If one attempts to flirt and ‎bombs badly, this is a total self-confidence killer. It does not matter what type of high-powered ‎person you are, getting the shove from a possible love interest shatters yourself image. To get ‎past this, try ignoring that little voice in your head. Think of all your successes and go for it.‎

The fear of flirting can also stem from lack of experience. Some people do not know how to flirt ‎or flirt very badly. Again, this can lead to potentially crashing and killing your self-confidence. ‎To get over this, try practicing on a friend. They will likely tell you if you are likely to succeed or ‎make a complete fool out of yourself.‎

The fear of flirting can also come from, not knowing the appropriate time or occasion. Many are ‎reluctant to approach women in bars or nightclubs because of their connotations. Flirting at work, ‎can as well have some problems. There is actually no right or wrong place to flirt. Just be aware of where ‎you are and make sure your technique is good.‎

Some fear flirting because of what it could bring. They fear approaching a person, ‎successfully chatting and then finding out that they are horrible. What to do in those occasions ‎sends people into a panic. If you do start to flirt with someone and you realize that this is not the ‎person for you, be polite. Excuse yourself and go. Do not be rude or try to sneak out of the place ‎covertly.‎

Finally, you need not to be afraid of Flirting. You become a master through doing. Get use to the idea that we all ‎crash and burn at some point in our lives, so flirting is not going to be any different. If you live in ‎fear of the flirting consequences then you are likely never to meet anyone.‎

27 August 2010

Flirting Tips: Things to Try.

There is no sure fire way to flirt. People flirt in different ways and depends how they feel comfortable. ‎Some of us like to be subtle and give small signals while others can be more assertive and direct. ‎Your success will depend highly on the person you are flirting with and your own style.‎

For those having very little flirting experience, there are a few things that you can try to get the ‎attention of that special person. These things are just simple things that anyone could ‎do in order to flirt.‎

Something you can do that is somewhat harmless is to glace over at the one you are interested in, at ‎frequent intervals. You do not want to start them down just by occasionally looking over. It is okay to ‎make eye contact with them and then smile. Whatever you do, do not look away the second time they ‎notice you glancing. This will make both of you quite uncomfortable.‎

If you are in a public place, like a bar or restaurant, you could try making trips near the person ‎your interested in. You could go to the restroom and plan a simple indirect route around where your ‎target is sitting. If you are feeling brave enough, smile as you pass by. This can easily be figure out as ‎flirting or friendliness.‎

If you finally approach the person and engage them in conversation, compliments always are ‎nice. You do not want to overdo it or make them obvious. See if something arises in the ‎conversation. For example, if the person says something about their profession, you could show ‎interest and tell them how much you admire it. It is imperative that you sound genuine otherwise ‎it will sounds like cheap pick up lines.‎

Laughing at jokes is always nice. People like to know that they have a good sense of humour. Try ‎to laugh only if you find it funny. If the joke is actually bad just ignore it.‎

Finally, inquiring about hobbies and pastimes is a great way to flirt. It serves two purposes. You ‎are getting to know the person as well as laying the groundwork for possible future date possibilities.‎

All of these tips are fun harmless things that can help the flirting process. They are things that ‎nearly everyone can do despite their level of comfort. By practicing these tips, you may be well on ‎your way to a first date in the near future.‎

25 August 2010

Flirting Tips: What to Concentrate On.

Many people make the mistake of saying too much while they are flirting. The truth must be told, you really don’t have to say much. Flirting starts long before either person utters a word. The first thing people tend to notice is how someone looks. After that, it is body language and then the statement that will be said. In fact, by the time you say anything, about 80 percent of the attention of the other party is used up. However, things can still go wrong.

When flirting, concentrate on how you look. This is what will initially get you noticed. You are to dress decently for the occasion. If you are at a formal dinner, dress formally. If you are at a friend’s party, go casual but smart. You would like to become known but do not shock others. The attention you are attracting might be the wrong kind if you show too much, off.

Next, you need to concentrate on body language. Use language that lets them know you are interested. Make eye contact and smile. Do not worry about looking obvious. In fact looking obvious is what you want. Pretending not to notice someone, you are interested in never works; they usually leave and the opportunity is lost.

Finally, you do need to say the right things. As stated above only about 20 percent of flirting involves conversation. However, you do not want this 20 percent to mess up the previous 80. It can happen and quite often does. Stay away from the old tired pick up lines. Even if they are meant jokingly, leave them. They are as transparent as plastic wrap and never work. Avoid the desire to be cool and assertive at first. Walking over with a drink before even saying hello is a great way to put someone off you way.

Always, give compliments but do not overdo it. Be sincere. Phony compliments are worse than not an iota at all.

23 August 2010

Flirting Tips: What to Say.

Flirting can be a delicate balance. You want to say the right things but you do not want to overdo ‎it. You also want to be witty and charming but you do not want to sound insincere. You want to ‎impress that other person but you do not want to make a complete fool out of yourself.

There are some things you can say to impress and give you the best results when ‎flirting. Keep reading and be informed.

The truth must be reveal; the flirting process starts long before you utter a word. Usually how someone ‎looks is what first attracts the other person. After that, the body language comes in. By the time, you say something; about ‎‎80 percent of the other person’s attention is use up to get what you really mean. The last thing you want is to allow the last 20 ‎percent to mess it up for you. This actually can happen.

To prevent this from happening, avoid the traditional pick up lines. Just ‎stay away from them; they are as transparent as plastic wrap and will not impress. You have a ‎much greater chance of getting a drink on your face than engaging this person in any ‎conversation. You may want to start with a nice friendly Hello or Hi and move from there.‎

Once you start talking, be careful not to come on too strong. Sometimes people do this if they are ‎nervous. It can be misinterpreted and before you know it, you are wearing your drink.‎

Take things easy and slow. Flirting is about getting people to like you not scaring them off.‎
Avoid taking any kind of action too quickly. Do not try to be cool and walk over with a drink. ‎You might end up wearing it. Simply talk, be friendly and then offer a drink if they want one. ‎Making assumptions can end up in disaster.‎

Finally, some great flirting advice is to give compliments. However, be careful not to overdo it. ‎Getting hit with compliments is going to make you look either desperate or just plain foolish. ‎Sound genuine with your compliments and things will go much better.‎

Flirting can be a bit tricky at times. Overdoing it can make you look very bad and you will not succeed. ‎Just take it easy and be genuine. Do not come on too strong and expect things should go fine.‎

21 August 2010

Online Flirting: A New Art Form.

Many of the same things work for online flirting that work for “brick and mortar” flirting and all relationships begin with successful flirting. Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being OTT. If you go too far, she will label you “slimy” If you do not go far enough, she will label you “wimpy”. So how do you achieve that point half way between slimy and wimpy and do it online without using eye contact or body language? All you need is a computer, an internet connection, and membership of an online dating site. 

1.      Have fun! Be light-hearted, funny, and entertaining. Make her eager to talk to you again. Flirting is playful.

2.      Ooze confidence. Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life. You need to transmit the “feel good” factor. An optimistic attitude attracts females as if honey attracts flies.

3.      Compliment her and do it often and sincerely. Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself. She will want to spend more time with you and if she pays you a compliment say “thank you”. Do not be self-depreciating.

4.      Listen, listen, and listen. Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions. Get her to open up and talk about herself. Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her. Works wonders!

5.      Do not be rude. Flirting does not include being sexually explicit nor taking offence if the woman is not responding to you. If she is not interested, take the hint and move on to the next prospect. If you get many rejections, you should probably consider a different approach.

6.      Send an email after you chat. This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to a successful flirting.

Do not try to go too fast. Flirting is the first step to a successful relationship.

19 August 2010

Flirting Tips: How to Be Interesting.

Unbelievably you likely have many interesting and unique things about you. Perhaps you like ‎to dress a certain way or wear your hair in a particular manner. Anything like this can help you to ‎flirt and be attractive to others. Uniqueness attracts attention and once that happens, the flirting ‎can begin.

Something you need to do is to let that person know you are interested. Many people make the ‎mistake of shying away when they see someone they find interesting or attractive. If you see ‎someone that you find attractive, do not turn away and take every effort not to notice them. Try ‎smiling and even saying hello. Some fear looking too obvious but this are exactly what you want.‎

If this person does not know you like them then you could lose your opportunity. Something that ‎you should try is to be interesting by acting interested. When you meet someone and start ‎talking, let him or her have the majority of the conversation. You do not have to just sit there and be ‎talked at by allow them to have about 60 percent of the floor. Your showing them you interested ‎in what they say which is a very attractive quality.‎

Finally, find something unique about yourself and show it off. For instance, you like colourful clothing then, ‎wear them. If you like, certain books then are seen carrying and reading them. This will attract those ‎that have similar tastes to you. Whatever you do, do not put up a front. Do not be seen with classic ‎novels just because the one you know the one you are interested in likes them. This needs to be a ‎genuine interest not a made up one. These plans always backfire.‎

Flirting can be quite fun and not as difficult as many think. They key to attracting people to you ‎is using your uniqueness. Get yourself noticed with your interests and soon you will find people ‎coming to you. In turn, be interested in others and you will soon find many of great people to flirt ‎with and get to know better.‎

17 August 2010

Flirting Tips: Flirting 101.

Flirting is one of the way of getting and keeping the attention of that special someone. Flirting can be easy ‎and fun it just requires some sincerity and a little practice. Never flirt just for ‎the sake of it. Even though it is harmless you have to remember that you are playing with ‎someone’s’ emotions. Flirting with someone you are not interested in to get something in return just ‎is not nice.

Get Out There, No one who moans about not being able to find anyone is trying hard enough. There are ‎plenty of great men and women out there to meet and get to know. Anyone who says this likely ‎heads straight home from work and spend the rest of the evening in front of the television.‎

Meeting people requires some effort. If you are on your own all the time, that will never happen.‎

You need to get out on occasion and see others. Many use the excuse, “I don’t like the bar and ‎night club scene”. Well. You do not have too. In fact, most lasting relationships started in ‎places other than bars and clubs. A great place to start is where you spend about 1/3 of your life. ‎This is at work. Those that form lasting relationships in the work place last by a much larger ‎percentage than those formed in the bar and club arenas.‎

Work colleagues make great possible life partners but make sure your flirting will not get you fired. ‎Some companies have no dating policies. These are difficult to enforce but they can make your ‎life difficult. You should also keep your behaviour at work professional. Do the flirting outside of ‎work, or at breaks or lunches. Wasting company time could bring disciplinary action.‎

If work does not provide anyone that, you are interested in, and then think of other areas in your life. ‎Perhaps join a gym to become fit. These are great places to improve your health as well as meet others. ‎Courses and seminars are also ideal opportunities.‎

Meeting people is not as difficult as your think. You need to think of places you regularly go to ‎and activities you could engage in. One does not have to be bars fly to meet interesting people; you simply need to switch off the TV and get out of your house.‎

15 August 2010

Flirting Tips: Be Interesting And Unique.


You have powers of attraction that you do not even realize. Even if you feel you do not have much ‎to offer, trust yourself you do. You must not be a 6 ft runway model or make a 6-figure secretary ‎to attract. You simply need to find out what is unique and interesting about you and show it off.‎

Most of us like to read books of one type or another. Even if you do not read very often, chances ‎are you have had the odd paperback in your bag for those long waiting times at airports or ‎appointments. This ways, you can draw people who like reading close to you.‎

By having books with you and actually reading them, eventually somebody will notice you. This is ‎a magnificent opening to engage somebody, which has a similar interest with you in a conversation. Where ‎things go from there is entirely up to you.‎
                                                                                                                   
Some of us like certain items or styles of clothing. If you like something, wear it. Someone is ‎bound to notice and make a comment. Again, this provides a great opportunity to meet someone ‎with similar taste to yours. Once you start talking, the opportunities are endless.‎

Finally, you can be attractive by looking interested. If you meet someone, let him or her have the ‎floor for the majority of the time. Do not stay completely quiet but let them have about 60 percent ‎of the talk time. This makes you appear interested in them, which is a very attractive quality. ‎Being interesting does not take a lot of effort. You definitely have something unique about you; ‎use it to your advantage.‎

13 August 2010

Flirting Tips: First Step.


Ever notices someone that, you would like to get to know better? Ever look over and see someone looking back at you? Are you afraid of letting someone know how you feel because ‎you are afraid he or she might, not be interested? Well you are not alone. Nearly all of us at some ‎point in our lives have felt this way. If you really want to get that person’s attention, and find ‎out if they could be interested in you then learn to flirt.‎

Flirting is a great way to seek out the information that you want. It also does not have to be ‎very emotional. If the other person does not respond then you can move on to someone or ‎something else. Knowing how to flirt effectively is the key to getting them interested and ‎keeping them that way. To have a successful flirting, you need to look at the way people do flirt and get some tips ‎on how to do it effectively.‎

Below are rules to guide you to successful and flourishing flirting:

Rule No. 1
One of the first rules of flirting is never do it for the sake of it. Although flirting is ‎relatively harmless, you are playing with another person’s emotions. Flirting with someone you are not ‎interested in just is not pleasant.

Rule No. 2
The next rule of flirting is not to worry about what you say as ‎much as how you look and what you are doing. When someone sees you, he or she gives slightly ‎over half of their attention to how you look. Make sure you look nice and are dressed for the ‎occasion. You just want to be notice, not to shock people.‎

Rule No. 3
The next item of importance is your body language. About one third of their attention will go ‎to this. Watch what you do. Make sure you are not doing anything embarrassing with your hands ‎or moving about too much. Stand up straight, do not slouch, and look confident.‎

Rule No. 4
Finally, try to stay calm. If you are naturally ‎funny or charming then use this to your advantage, If not then the less said the better. Try to ‎engage in a friendly conversation.‎

To find out if that special someone is interested in you then try flirting. By flirting, you will ‎draw attention and hopefully attract the one that you want. By paying attention to how you ‎look, what you do and what you say to a degree, you could be well on your way to finding ‎that special soul mate.‎